Boundaries are not a brick walls and security fences

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Your world is changing as your life is whirling inside of a vortex of different possibilities.

Where do you give your power away?

In your relationship with self and your relationships with others—where have you given your power away?

Think "If setting boundaries burns bridges with folks, then we have matches… we ride at dawn"

Kind of funny...



Feeling so many of those who are choosing their own well-being FIRST so they can be sustainable and sovereign in their relationships and life situations.

And by the way, You are the one to define the boundaries and lines others can’t go into with you — you are the one to let others "affect" you.



It’s up to you how you use your being, space, time, resources, and energy. Do not fall back on old emotional patterns for security.

You're past that now.

Yes, you are maybe feeling the intensity this summer to uplevel, unlike any other year…


There’s a lot of pressure around us all needing to shed our old stories of disappointment, hurts, and trauma in order to take responsibility for our energy in the unfolding of the new.

Yes, your understanding of wants and needs, how you self-identify, and your untapped possibilities as you meet reality as it is, has evolved. And you must let go of the story of how you thought it would be…

So you can open up to what is here and now. Nourish what you need, trust yourself and do the work. Consistent, persistent self-care will get you through!



Overall I’m feeling a lot of growth, resolution, and new, stable foundations beginning!

You are doing better than you think and I am cheering you on to say take care of your being and energy!

So that you are right in you first, before anything else.

And then focused and engaged on the right things and movements in life, from your core.

So focus on self-care, what nourishes you, your own daily routines, exploring "what healthy boundaries mean for you these days" and loving yourself through the process.


Boundaries meaning "doorways to understanding and ultimately connection" instead of boundaries meaning build brick walls and security fences.

And doorways to skillful communication.


Even when things are better or improving, it can still be really hard sometimes. Yet to honor it is key. Because what you need is inside the process.

What you need is inside you, too. You = full-on facing what is, fully engaged, lit up toward what you are willing to create…

Just even being focused and engaged and lit.


Your most powerful days are the ones you keep choosing that your life, IS your own! And I am feeling it big time!

No apologies or excuses. Only a gift that is yours…

An amazing journey. A choice.



You can make peace with the past. Yet it doesn’t happen by pushing it down or turning away. It happens through honoring it just as it is. And then, supporting and nurturing something new.

And at times, we just need the reminder to keep going and to follow through with what we already know deep within.

So if you’ve been showing up and it feels uncomfortable, trust you are on track and keep showing up...

To allow the learning process of discovering what you authentically need. Slowing down and getting into a deeper connection with what authentically matters.

Aware of you healthy boundaries and what energy you’re allowing in so that you’re more aware of your inner resources.



An invitation into your body’s senses so you can connect with the intelligent info you need…

Even explore more of what nourishes, resets, and nurtures you, regardless of the external?

If not, maybe you feel like you’re at the almighty end of burnout?

And if this is so, can you honor the dignity in this just as it is, for example, your tiredness?

Can you listen and hear from the present possibility?



Just like anything — any wound or memory or trauma, you don’t want to push it away, for it contains medicine or some sort of intelligence… Imagine what would ‘it’ might tell you instead?

Even your tiredness is honorable and contains magic and healing power.

You have to look at it to heal it.

You must look at it in order to change it.


We cannot heal what we are not willing to see or feel or touch.

Even avoiding conflict is a way of avoiding connection.

Yes, feeling so many are stepping out of their comfort zone to try something new right now...

Those who have been feeling resistant, stuck, confused, lost, trapped — or even those facing obstacles are opening up in some new way and face their own obstacles!



Things are changing…

I feel the ‘new beginning’ you or I have asked for is here in some way…

Yet now that the opportunity is here, can we be stripped naked, feel vulnerable and STILL DELIVER it to ourselves?

In other words, can we actually receive what is here for us?

Even if it means we must process the ending and completion of the old?


Allow yourself to fully feel and grieve so that you can, also feel, what’s beyond that.

You have been asking for a better life in some way through your being and actions and now there is an opportunity, do you see it?

I trust you do.


Nurture and nourish and tie up leaky spaces, your boundaries, your inner resources and deepen or get in touch with a daily practice. To Self Regulate if you’re stressed, triggered, angry, overwhelmed, anxious, stuck, numb, or feeling unsafe…

The price for sovereignty and freedom (and real love) is radical self-responsibility. Not to blame, lean on, shame, punish, or persecute.

There’s none of that when operating through present being; seeing from your heart field, anyway. Only what must return back home, what must be fed, what must be released and mulched back down. It’s a process that includes honor. Even the down.



There is nowhere to get, only a deeper understanding within so you are more able to create without.

Plus there’s freedom in realizing that there’s no end station to reach...

There is no point at which we arrive at a fully fixed and known self that stays static.

There is always more to discover because we are infinite beings. There’s no limit to this universe, nature, or us.



Your new beginning is here, it is up to each of us if we wish to welcome it and evolve or succumb to fear and stay where we are.

The more you allow to face reality as it is, illusions will expose themselves so you can leave behind what isn’t real and step up, own your light and welcome the changes you need even if it seems scary at first.

Honor it.



Sometimes the things that seem so impossible to shift at first, are the things that will impact us the most for the better…

When the immovable forces everything in your life to shift, you have a choice.

Do you choose to see what is hard to change as a rejection, punishment, or refusal?

Or do you choose to see it as a way to inspire your perspective as a catalyst of growth?

These repeating patterns are catalysts of growth that you cannot let go of until you’ve fully integrated your next version of YOU.

It all happens when you shift your awareness from… "Why is this happening to me? Get me out of here!" to "Thank you for this experience, I honor you… I trust the feedback I am receiving and I have the power to know myself and choose: create!"

Everything is happening for your greatest growth, prosperity, and evolution if you choose it.



Anyone who shoves their belief system down another person's throat fighting to prove "what’s right" is only a projection of the insecurities or doubts that they have within.

True power stands still I am learning… It doesn’t need to move, shout... it doesn’t waver or need to prove itself or need to be right.



Allow what you experience to take up the space and be your first priority in understanding things.

From this place, we can respect each other’s sovereignty and freedom.

The "goal" with being grounded and always be calm, regulated, and neutral all the time.

The point isn’t to not try to get triggered. Or to be a robot.

The point is to be able to experience the present moment fully, free from the past.


This beautiful soul is where our lives.

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